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How to wait for the right man /women from God?

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How often you have been asked by your relatives, friends or colleagues if you are in a relationship? How long you have been single?

Or why are you not married yet and why are you still single?  Awkward to answer, isn’t it? Or you find it irritating? And for that reason you are now in a rush to find someone to be with because you don’t want to be asked or you don’t want people think you are not good enough to have someone in your life. Or worse you’re not that pretty and nobody likes you. So sad people think that way and that’s the reality.

But Hey! It’s okay! It’s not that sad or lonely to be alone. Maybe it is not yet your time. Or maybe you have just learned that is okay to love yourself first.

Let me share this with you, a Life lesson form Shawn McKenzie. It talks about how you are blessed and happy to be single (for now). I hope it will help and inspires you too. Please take time to read as this is all for us women/man out there. And let me know how it feels after reading this message.

Life lesson by: Shawn McKenzie

How to wait for the right man /women from God?

Enjoy where you are. Embrace the season you’re in. Trust me; it’s very well worth the wait. There are people who are currently in relationships and married wishing they could be in your current situation. The Bible tells us to be anxious for nothing but in prayer and supplication. Don’t be anxious for a man. Don’t be anxious for a woman. Don’t rush the timing and plan for God for your life by stepping out the step. The Bible says the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. Stay in step!

As crazy as this may sound… It’s a blessing to have your heart broken now. It’s a blessing to cry over someone who left and mistreated you now. It’s a blessing that someone suddenly stopped talking to you now. . It’s a blessing to go through the process. Compared to some people who are deep in a relationship where time and energy were invested. It takes longer to heal from that experienced. Especially, if children are involved. Thank God for the small trials.

Lastly, never! Never! Never… Compromise your standards for any man or woman. There are no “but’s” or “what if’s”. There’s no need to give a hopeless doubtful situation an opportunity – flee! Stop playing with the devil. If you two are not equally yoked nothing goes passed friendship. And sometimes you can’t be friends. Don’t get caught up in trying to evangelize your lust with someone into a Godly relationship, it won’t work.  I promise you, your plan will fail and you will suffer for your actions. You cannot change anyone! That’s God’s job. The person has to be willing to change. Jesus doesn’t force Himself upon no man.

If you’re single you’re in a very good position than most. Continue to allow Christ to work on you and prepare your heart. When it’s your season, you will know.♥

‘Fall in love with Taking care of yourself. Mind. Body. Spirit.”

Amazing isn’t it? 😉

Thanks for reading. ♥

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♥Take time to read this is for you.♥

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I was browsing my old notes on my mobile and I suddenly saw this message, a message that was shared 2 years ago from our YA (young adult) group. This is about the difference between hearing and listening and finding a loyal someone to you.

While I was reading this message, it got me thinking and concerned me if which one am I. “Am I really a good listener or a good hearer? Do I have a loyal friend with me that will stay and listen to me?” I was bothered since I can’t answer my question right away. It took me days and weeks before I realized what is really meant to be a listener and a hearer, what is really meant by hearing someone’s word or listening to someone’s emotion. And yes I realized that I have one loyal friend that will stay with me and listen to me…forever.

This time I’m going to pass this message to you so you will know which one are you. Please take time to read, this is for you. 🙂

Listening is probably the most important skills in building friendship and relationships, because you can’t love people without listening to them.

There’s a BIG difference between hearing and listening. You can hear something and not really be listening. I can’t tell you how many arguments I’ve had with my kids or my wife because I was listening to words instead of the emotions. Sometimes the words don’t even matter. Somebody can say to you, “I’m fine,” but the way they say it tells you they’re not fine. Listening means you also hear what the person isn’t saying.

That’s called empathy. Empathy means to put yourself in others person’s shoes. Learn their point of view. Ask yourself, “How would I feel if I were in that situation?”

Listening with empathy means you listen without interruption and you listen for fears and feelings. You listen for what they aren’t saying. You’re not trying to fix the situation. Sometimes healing comes just by listening!

As Romans 15:2 say, “we must bear the ‘burden’ of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others.’ (TLB)

What does it mean to be considerate or to bear the burden of a doubt of others? That means that when people are so much in pain and hurting so badly that they don’t even know what they believe… they need the devotion of a loyal friend- someone who will be present and listen with empathy.

Proverbs 21:21. ‘He who pursues righteousness and loyalty finds life, righteousness and honor.’

But who is that loyal friend of yours that will listen to you with empathy? That will never leave nor forsake you? And will continue to work on you until the end? Is it your family, your friends, your wife or husband, your parents, your colleague? Or is it the person next beside you?

‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’ Jeremiah 33:3 | NIV |

Now you do realize that? Make sense right? 😉

Thanks for reading! God bless everyone! ♥.

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